Body Shamming In The Military Life

Body shaming is an ever growing thing in the world. Whether it is because of the media showing us stories of bullies or, people growing more intolerant of people who aren't "the same". In the military world this is an ever growing issue we avoid and laugh at but in reality it is an issue we need to discuss.

In the military they have a "name" the call dependants who are "big". Dependapotamus, is a term used to describe anyone who is "big" and a dependant. Now you can be a size 4 and still be called a Dependapotamus, the term really is in te eye of the beholder.

I see this word being used on social media, in groups that are suppose to be helpful to one another. Since when did us military spouses decided to turn on each other? Over here we are the only family we have and we constantly are insulting one another.

The anger people show towards one another is sickening. The hate is a whole new level I have never seen before. I have been bullied about my weight (luckily I haven't been called a dependapotamus) and some people swear they don't bully. I have had some one tell me, "We need to go to the gym" or "we need to go run" and then when I give my reason for not running I get taunted and called a whimp. I'll go to the gym with people who make me feel good, not people who make me feel worse about myself. 

The body shamming in a community that only has one another is saddening. The body shamming I see in this world isn't any better. I wish people could just love one another for what they are. Don't judge by their appearance, judge by their attitude, by their personality. STOP THE BODY SHAMMIHG!

Military Spouse House and The Goal

Many of you might be thinking "What the hell is a 'Military Spouse House'"? Well to be completely honest, sometimes I'm not even sure. All I know is this blog is meant to help other Military spouses and to shine light on subjects many shy away from.

Being a military spouse isn't always happy homecomings and what many assume is a good paycheck. Many spouses have daily jobs and then try and spend time with their spouses when they can. Surprise deployments and long work days are an everyday thing for us. Realizing you either can't tell anyone where they're going or you don't even know yourself. Is a scary reality for us. Having a set date for your spouse to come home only to find out a few days before it will be another week or two. It's not an easy life.

In my situation my husband and I are in Okinawa, Japan. Yes it is very beautiful and has many things to do, but we are across the globe from our family in Kansas. My mother works nights back home so I can talk to her more than others, but the reality is you have to live without being near the ones you love. There have been many situations that I wish I was a Time Lord (sorry, couldn't help myself) and travel back home in an instant. Sadly I am no Time Lord nor do I have a time machine.

Some people ask "Why would you marry him if that's the lifestyle?"  Because I love my husband, I chose him, the lifestyle was just part of the deal. All of the heartache, all of the hardships are worth it. To live with my husband and enjoy the life we have is all that matters to me.